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Paul Angelo/ Big Gay Family Reports & Reviews (25)

• Jul 13, 2024

I have been part of the program for a few years, and it's great. Paul focuses on structure and depth, but not every gay man can do this. Most just want sex, and this program is not for that.

This program requires that you behave; otherwise, you are asked to leave. This is why I like it—most of my introductions still continue after six months, so Paul's methods work. He does not enable abuse, trauma or shame - which happens everywhere else!

When people meet through the program they are asked to work through conflicts and challenges. This is where the crazy people stop because they want to move on to the next introduction without fixing what is wrong. The program does not allow that. You need to have a good standing with all introductions to get another one. This is a very powerful strategy and makes total sense. Why would he send another introduction to someone who is failing to resolve issues and work through them? This is only asking for trouble and enabling the toxicity that people bring with themselves. BGF is the only service in the world that operates like this. All others tolerate abusers.

Big Gay Family offers quality unlike anywhere else. Those rejected come here and complain. They never take responsibility for their behavior.

Join BGF if you want a real-deal relationship service that does not tolerate abusers and sex addicts who dominate all other services. If you are a sex addict who wants sex and to find your TOP - this program is not for you. Conversations about sex are discouraged until you get to know the person - and for all the good reasons.

I am a very happy customer! Thank you Paul for all you do! Don't let the crazies influence your program! You have my full support!

+25
• Mar 19, 2024

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+5
• Jul 13, 2024

All meetup groups that are abandoned are empty shells to begin with and anyone can take them over. This guy Mike D'Addario - is a sociopath who could not stand the fact that Paul reprimanded him for his behavior. He was upset that Paul discourages conversations about anal sex and top-bottoms to help gay men connect emotionally. Mike D'Addario is a real psycho parasite who wants to hurt Paul's business without a single proof of wrongdoing. He was in the program for only 3 weeks and could not even make it past 1 month - thats how damaged this individual is. If you ever come across this post and you are dating him - run - run - run.

• Jul 04, 2024

Don't you love all those haters and losers who never achieve anything in life and they go after those who have something meaningful going on? Can't you see the hate pouring out of this guy's mouth?

All those psychos are jealous that Paul has reached thousands of people on meetups after having paid lots of money for the groups. These haters just hate and hate - never taking a look at the mirror. They project their self-hate on others.

Friends - can we be real? To start - BGF is an abuse-free place. Unlike all other places that are filled up with narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths - BGF is not tolerant of abusers like this guy. This is the reality check that sooner or later everyone has to embrace.

Paul kicked this psychotic monster out of the program. Thank God we have Paul here (he is from Poland and has a solid value system unlike many Americans who are clueless about this kind of stuff.. and Paul does not tolerate [censored] like this guy). Everyone else tolerates them which pollutes all social platforms. Notice his anonymous post. LOL of course they all do that. This guy never made it past 30 days. This guy was kicked out of the program like a lot of other narcissists/sociopaths over the past 10 years. (this is necessary to keep peace and love for all others).

We pride ourselves on keeping the most loving men in the program and telling others to return to Grindr, where they came from.

Let me ask you this: Should Paul have allowed this guy to stay in the program? Think about it. It is REQUIRED that those people are removed ASAP! Paul understands this very well and his program is the BEST IN THE WORLD! Absolutely the best - but only for the healthy guys. BGF will not tolerate narcissism, sex addicts, and Grindr psychos. There is nowhere else you can go to be 100% protected...only BGF.

Many people wish for BGF to go out of business but just the contrary is happening. Smart, educated gay men know exactly that this filtration is REQUIRED otherwise the toxic people are traumatizing the healthy people. This rarely happens inside BGF due to Pauls responsiveness to abuse and scummy guys with entitlement and sex addiction. The loving people are protected and prioritized over the abusive filth that sometimes gets in.

All dating platforms will eventually have crazy monsters like this guy joining them. You cannot avoid that - 90% of the gay population - real monsters who only use others for sex and dump them. This guy is THAT guy and many others - lots of them, in fact. He has never been in any relationship EVER and after the first round of introductions he showed his true colors and we kicked him out - and told him to NEVER come back on the way out.

Paul personally KICKED those disgusting self-hate-infested-forever-damaged skunks out as soon as possible and while doing that Paul "spat on the ground" for good riddance. Paul PERFECTED this over the years so that no single monster and disgusting psycho is ever allowed to be inside BGF.

These complainers don't realize that their complaints only reinforce the value of Big Gay Family to everyone rational and self-aware. One toxic person ruins the entire experience for 100 people. Just one sex-perverted [censored] will destroy an entire community. Not inside BGF. Never!

Those of you who are reading this should be happy to hear this because this is what has to be implemented for order and peace. Principles -> Order -> Peace -> Abundance.

This is the equation we promote and psychos and narcissists have no interest in following this or any other principles. They want to overpower and control and abuse everyone else. None of this happens here. This is how members of BGF after 7 years are still in the program, enjoying the tranquil and peaceful space.

And this is how you are assured to have real love and friendships and not a repetition of the trauma/shame by those perverted [censored] monster psychos from Grindr.

So there - good luck dealing with those psychos on Grindr and other platforms. We have ZERO of those sex-addicted monsters.

Join us by visiting https://BigGayFamily.com and bring your friends with you (not the psychos though).

• Feb 13, 2024

When you ask for a contract and the "business" says they are too busy to have them, understand there is a problem. This man then follows up with a text message to me saying "I see why you are single- you are controlling". Did he really need to send that text? Why not accept that you did not get the sale because of YOUR business practices? Sounded like a great service, but dont ever go out of your way to be rude when you say that this is something that is totally against your brand and product. SAD!

+6
• Apr 09, 2024

Notice that 100% of these posts are anonymous - they show no specific examples of any wrongdoing - just venting and attacking (narcissistic Rage) after being confronted about abuse.  Instead of correcting, they blame and attack - in every single case.  

This is very common among narcissistic individuals and sex addicts.   The Big Gay Family program is designed to repel them and to remove them - which is why they come here and smear the program - anonymously - like on Grindr.  They do it anonymously to avoid legal consequences for their libelous posts.  99% of the statements are pure lies and malicious attempts to hurt me and the program.  

They never take responsibility.  They cannot be held accountable to any principle and when you show they are abusive - they leash out in rage. Think about the people who abused you and what happened when you confronted them.  All hell broke loose - that is how they operate - they attack and invert the problem - they accuse you of all the things they are doing.  

The only way to hold them responsible is with legal means and I had to take a legal course to do that.   Because when they have to prove their complaint - they realize that they made everything up and have no proof of any kind.  This is why they always post anonymously because they know they are lying and attacking and therefore are libelous.

Gay men rarely show integrity.  This is why all communities are gone.  They are gone because of the narcissists and the sex addicts who destroyed everything that those communities stood for.  I am aware of this and Big Gay Family is the only surviving community because of my knowledge of these mentally unstable men and their methods of attack and subversion.  They are sex addicts and narcissists in most cases.  It is sad but true that the vast majority of gay men are traumatized and have lots of anger due to their loneliness - this is why they are often very toxic.  Some are self-aware and can see their anger but most are not.  So they leash out and continue the trauma cycle.

Big Gay Family is not new - we have hundreds of members, many of whom have been in the program for 5+ years.  We are aware of the trauma cycle and the perpetuation of hurt by gay men and we designed a protection against it.  Our program's first job is to offer a healthy and stable social experience.  

To do that, we created the kind of rules that first filter out toxic people.  We have a rule that states:  You agree to talk to everyone at least 3 times. This eliminates those gay guys who want to do "hit and run" or "cum and go".  

Also, we have a rule about communication.  After receiving introductions, for the first 30 days, members of BGF agree to avoid conversations about controversial topics:  politics, sex, money, and age.  This ensures that people do not sexually objectify or push each other away (sabotage) and instead that they connect emotionally and spiritually.  This is the basis for a lifelong relationship.  These small requests have ensured that most of our members are relaxed about meeting others and don't have to be turned into [censored] puppets because someone is looking for a "total top" and needs to get [censored]ed right away.

As of April 2024, we also ask that members of Big Gay Family do not solicit top/btm conversations.  This helps to avoid the trap of reducing everything and everyone to sex - which is toxic in itself (narcissistic) and never leads to a loving connection.  We are the only gay social program in the world that prioritizes emotional connections and not anal sex matching.  With 100's of bottoms for 1 top, we needed a better way to promote friendships and relationships and our methodology is the most sensible and healthy in the world.

Many BGF rules piss off the toxic gay guys who are sex addicts and have no emotional depth and are often spiritually dead.  They want to bring Grindr to Big Gay Family. They only want to continue with someone if that person is their sexual perfect match (total top).  They are opportunistic and egomaniacal.  When they receive an introduction to someone who is NOT their perfect match - they want to walk away and reject that person immediately as though that person is invisible.  This violates the rules of BGF and this is the place when toxic guys realize they are toxic.  At this moment they have a choice - to learn and to correct the situation or to leave the program.  Many of them, upon confrontation - realize they will not get away with any games or toxic patterns so they choose to leave. But before they leave - they want to attack the last and final time.

So they come here and post anonymously because they want to hurt the program - to have the final say.  This venting is their "closure".  They never take responsibility for their actions - ever.  It is not in their nature to accept their mistakes and abuse.  They always blame their issues on others. Instead of taking responsibility and being accountable - they are domineering and manipulating.  These individuals thrive in chaos and conflict.  They are often control freaks or on an ego power trip to tell others how to behave.  They cannot follow the rules of a community - they want the community to adjust to them.  They are takers - they toxify everything they touch.

Big Gay Family is the most organized social experience you will ever have.  You are protected from the vast majority of toxic men and toxic situations.  We have many principles, rules, and methodologies that offer clarity, purpose, and intentionality.  The program is like a relationship retreat for anyone who seeks love and friendships.  If someone cannot make it inside the program - it simply means they are not ready or not made for relationships.  They don't have the ability to follow principles.  They break all rules - they attack the facilitators - they lie - they deceive - they betray. And the rest of the members - those who follow our principles and methodology - experience the most magical time of their lives.

Join us at the program if you want to be protected from the kind of people who post here and who are in most situations extremely toxic and psychopathic. Visit https://BigGayFamily.com and meet gay men differently.

• Jan 06, 2024

Overtime, I always somehow bump into this “Big Gay Family” program, that promotes a bubblegum life for those who participate of this “training” that will give you “skills” to succeed finding Mr right.
Nothing wrong with that, if the tactics used by Mr Angelo wasn’t directed to someone’s insecurity, using a judgmental voice to sell to disseminate his “lessons”.
On his “network” he will help you to find MASCULINE, disease free, culturally educated “peers, to meet up for real relationship.
According to the mailing marketing they scream everyone to block a narcissist to join this space - as 90% of the gays carry this sociopath tendency, also blocking closet, bisexuals or hiv positive guys, as those groups are naturally abusive and against gay people.
This group believes that having a sexual preference, being top or a bottom is a problem, not to mention that Paul himself believes that anal sex is wrong and bad for your health and damn you if you feel pleasure on that practice
Overtime, the gays fought hard to get to this point where we don’t have to hide our essence, or who we are, and having a homossexual trying to take advantage of who feel left out of this universe, by promoting an elitism segregation cannot be ignored.
Shame on you Paul Angelo for disregarding those who fought hard to emancipate our community, what in part has been lead by those who endured the early days of hiv epidemic, forcing our people to fight for our rights.
Is not the gays from Grindr that people must fear, but those who profit promoting segregation of any kind.

+6
• Dec 26, 2023

If Paul truly cares about wanting to help gay men find a loving, successful and committed relationship, he would make the program affordable to people like me. I am disabled and on a fixed income and simply cannot afford this program, as great as it might be.

+5
• Jul 04, 2024

But why do you have to complain and be so hating? So your situation matters but other's not? Start your own program and see how much work it takes and how many haters Paul has to deal with regularly and now you want him to give it to you for $5. You want it for free? Go on Grindr!

I am currently enrolled with Big Gay Family - and my first impression is that the program is well put together. After 5 introductions, I am still talking to the guys and everyone is polite and respectful. The guys are very different than the ones you meet on hookup apps - inside Big Gay Family- they are all educated, employed and better communicators. There are no closeted or bisexual men inside the program. All guys are 100% out and the guys I was introduced to were masculine gay men.
Paul also created a social curriculum, a dating strategy and 30+ tools for intimacy. I have never seen such designs and exercises anywhere else. It sometimes may be overwhelming to use all the tools inside the program, but they definitelly take you deeper if you want that with another person.

To be honest, I have never seen such level of detail about dating. People can be upset with Paul for his view about drag queens and the gay community in general - but he is one of very few gay coaches who is willing to speak the truth about sex addictions, porn, S&M and everything else.

So, before I joined BGF, I was already "sold" on Paul's services because so few gay coaches are willing to be so corageous and open.
When you join Big Gay Family, you also get 5 courses, which are a bonus gift for everyone who joins BGF. This way everyone is learning together and improving ways of interacting and connnecting. Here are the courses:
- Your Perfect Husband
- Your Perfect Dating Sequence
- Gay Compatibility Formula
- Sex On Rocks
- Gay Relationship Mindsets
Those courses are amazing and they are included inside the program. There is no perfect dating service, but Paul's Big Gay Family is one that has everything - matchmaking, coaching, courses and a full dating strategy that comes with a social curriculum.
10 years of work shows in the quality of his methods. So, I am fully on board and I do prefer the style that Paul promotes via Big Gay Family - it is a quite different way of meeting men!
Thanks,Eric

+5

Unfortunately I fell for his scam, but not without initial skepticism. Essentially, he will "discount" your rate if you're on the fence about signing up because it's a lot of money per month, somewhere around $500, if I recall correctly. Once you sign up, you have to agree not to talk about specific topics with the person/people you're matched with, such as the other person's experience with Paul Angelo and the other person's location. This should be a red flag for anyone considering giving him money. I was matched with someone over 1000 miles away, so there's that. My match was also given the same "discounted" rate. The other person felt the same way that I did. Save yourself the money and time and go join a local gay volunteer group or social club.

I laugh at the response from Paul himself on here. So unprofessional, it's sad. Hopefully this helps others avoid being scammed as well. He's just name calling and trying to dismiss everyone who recognizes him for what he is as narcissists and psychotics. He probably doesn't even have legitimate credentials.

+15

Something may have changed since March, but as of December 2022 I'm paying many times less and the prohibited topics for the *first month* with your matches are: politics, sex, money, and age. Our locations and our experience with Paul and the program are usually the first things that have come up in my conversations with guys in the program. I've never been told we could not talk about those things. The four guys I'm talking to so far seem to love it as well.

BGF 2022-2023 Participant

I love the program and have been with Paul's service for over 3 years now and met over 30 men and have amazing relationships with all of them. I never meet people outside of the service and I get monthly introductions and love the process that Paul designed.
These reviews are from non-members and it seems that one person was given access to introductions and then realized he was not a good fit for the program.

It is not a secret that most gay men are damaged and shamed. They say they want relationships but in reality, they are only looking for sex. Paul knows that and he designed the program so that those guys are filtered out.

Introductions are based on a family model which is a mixture of local and nonlocal introductions and everyone is fine with that. Those who complain are not interested in relationships - they are interested in sex only. They don't follow the design of the program and are asked to leave or are kicked out automatically.

Everyone I met loves the program and once in a while, someone complains. Those people are either sex addicts or broken men who are narcissists or have no capacity for emotional connections which is the foundation for the program. And they come here and complain anonymously.

This whole anonymous business is a perfect copy of Grindr and the hookup apps - honesty is not here, only hidden complaints and lies. Paul's program is state of the art and everyone loves it!

As the founder of Big Gay Family I have turned away and banned over 1,000 people from entering the program since 2010. Narcissists, entitled addicts, neurotics and shamed predators always complain. Psychotic and sex addicted individuals complain without taking responsibility for their actions. They say they want love, but in reality all they want is to get f[censored] by big d[censored]. They are logged in to Grindr every day and turn themselves into fist [censored]ers and psychotic BDSM sex addicts. We don't want any of them in Big Gay Family and I will always ban them and turn them away. So they come here and b[censored] about their psychosis.

+2
• Jan 06, 2024

Let me see if I understood correctly, are you really saying that there was more than 1000 guys interested in your scam and you have banished them? I’m not sure what’s the most disturbing part here, may be your judgmental limited vision that trash those who don’t believe in your moralistic way of being, or your attempts to classify who oppose to you as someone suffering for any mental health conditions. Actually the element that is not only disturbing - but completely outrageous is your narcissist with a strong messiah complex that complicates everything. Maybe instead taking advantage of gay guys you should invest some time managing your own mental health issues.

I’ve been doing the Big Gay Family program for three months, and I can say for certain that there is absolutely nothing about this program that could be considered a scam or in any way harmful to its participants. I’m talking to four different really high quality guys, establishing authentic and surprisingly deep connections in a very short time.

I’m a disciplined and together guy but I have long recognized emotional immaturity in myself when it comes to my romantic life. I’m finally ready to get serious about growing up emotionally and improving my dating outcomes. I feel incredibly lucky that I stumbled upon Paul‘s program at this moment in my life when I was ready to benefit from it.

It’s definitely not for everyone. If you can relate to my self-description in the paragraph above, and you’re ready to approach this with humility/self-awareness, and a willingness to give up addictive habits, you owe it to yourself to check it out.

It has been life-changing for me in a very short time. I think of Paul Angelo as my Eastern European Olympic coach. (1:1 coaching every two weeks plus many dozens of exceptional online classes he has recorded.) He can be abrasive, but he is Olympic level. His program feels like an experiment crafted by a top-tier university research lab with the goal of improving gay men‘s long-term dating outcomes.

PS Assuming the comment above was written by Paul, I invite you to reread it in the accent of an intense Slavic genius who is impatient to wake you up and show you a better way. Search for his videos on YouTube to get a sense of his vibe and the depth and quality of his approach.

BGF 2022-2023 Participant

I joined a meetup group run by Paul and Mark. They were having a sexuality workshop which seemed interesting so I registered. In the registration process I was sent to the biggayfamily.com website and asked to log in using Facebook. I never received the zoom link for the workshop. Instead, my Facebook account was hacked and my birthday changed so now I can't use my Facebook account or my meetup account. Stay away from Paul and Mark. They are predators.

+15

By the way I didn't mention Mark in my earlier remark because I'm not familiar with anyone named Mark. I'm guessing Mark was just there for the Meetup one night sexuality thing most people seem to be mostly complaining about here, rather than the big gay family program itself.

Not questioning that your Facebook account got hacked, but it's very hard for me to believe that Paul would do something so strange and risk his life's work with such an easily traceable crime. Coincidence or an actual scammer spoofing gay family seems more likely to me as Paul has acted with nothing but integrity over the past several months I have participated.

BGF 2022-2023 Participant

The facilitator didn't actually have qualifications in sex behavior or sex psychology. He said things like "Nuns are aggressive because they haven't been [censored]ed." He told an autistic participant that in order for him to be normal he needs to engage in sexual activity with men when he has no credentials in health for non-neurotypical persons. This was appalling and should be shut down. There were many fragile people in the meeting whom I feel are being prayed upon. He preached about how monogamy is a lie and how you should [censored] whom you want. The workshop was supposed to be on sex psychology. He also shared his conspiracy theories on AZT killing people with AIDs. That is not what this workshop is about. He is taking advantage of people and this should be shut down, as this is misleading. This group and class was one person's opinion, who has no actual credentials on the subject except his shocking use of sexual words to gain attention and focus and his personal sexual appetite.

+13

Paul just put out a video where he describes monogamy as the highest ideal, though he states men must become ready for monogamy through a process of individuation and socialization, which likely does not complete before the age of 40.

https://youtu.be/UNhM8-qp84Q

You may or may not agree with his perspective, but I encourage you to watch this and other videos of his to see the level of quality and nuance in his work, as compared to that implied by many of the comments here.

Also, just to be clear, it sounds like what most commenters here are critiquing were one-off free meetup events that were opportunities to promote the “big gay family“ program, but once in the BGF program there are no such group workshops… Everything is one on one… One-on-one coaching with Paul, and one-on-one interactions with the other guys you’re matched with in the program. So even if these workshops were not very good, they’re not really relevant measures of the quality of the Bgf program.

Opposing monogamy does not seem consistent with Paul's program at all, so I'm going to ask him about this in my next coaching call with him.

Regarding the comment you say he made to the guy with autism, by coincidence that is my area of expertise. It doesn't surprise me that Paul may have delivered that line to him in a way that seemed shocking to you if you believe people with Autism need to be treated with kid gloves, but my experience teaching and job-coaching young adults with autism is that (1) they can handle clear direct blunt feedback *better* than most neurotypical Americans and (2) getting a girlfriend or boyfriend, and exploring sexuality, produces more psychosocial advancement in their lives than any other type of "intervention" I have seen.

That being said, if you see yourself as fragile / vulnerable to the point that you cannot handle blunt feedback about areas of your life in which you may be blind, Paul is probably not the right life/dating coach for you.

This person pretends to be someone else and takes over underused online groups as admin, leaves the shell of the group to attract new users but just spams the members with links to join his dating site. Paul/Mark also personally contacted me to tell me they have my photo and name.

+15

Your name and photo come over automatically anytime you sign up for a group on Meetup or on Facebook. Paul is an intense dude whose first language is not English, so it doesn't surprise me that him mentioning this fact may have made you uncomfortable in your conversation, but I presume he didn't call you to scare you but to pitch the program, yes?

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